No no...I'm not running out of steam.
In fact, I have tons of things to say. The problem is that
I've been swamped with things to do since I got back. I just
spent the last two hours catching up on e-mails. As
promised, I try to read and consider each reasonable mail and give
some feedback. Over Holy Week when I was away, I managed to
accumulate about 100 e-mails. Almost all were positive and I
think my readers for that. Right now, I'm somewhere around
March 27th...except for a few quickie mails that I did from
yesterday. As I've said before, I have some "haters" who
feel the need to take shots at me whenever they can. From
what I can tell, these readers are girls, more specifically Asian,
and most likely Filipina...probably from here. Their
attitude describes what we Filipinos call a "crab mentality".
There are many ways to describe the Filipino crab mentality.
For me, I've always understood it as follows. If you are
trying to succeed, your fellow Filipinos will do everything to
undermine or second guess your success. Since misery loves
company, their inability to self-motivate and achieve empowers
them to attempt to destroy your life along with theirs. To
them, the only way you can get rich is by lying, cheating, and
stealing. To me, it reflects their attitude of "It takes one
to know one." They obviously don't understand that I'm
nothing like them. So in order to address the accusations I
receive, I'll challenge them here for everyone to see. Here
All of my readers and those who have
corresponded with me through e-mail know that I've never whined
about my life, begged, implied need, or want. I've never
asked for money or favors. Yes, people have offered, but I
have turned them down...mostly by dodging the question or by not
responding. If people have come to me with a question about
business, real estate, processing paperwork, or anything else that
involves my experience or expertise, I offer to help. If
someone is looking for a condo, I'll find it for them. If
they want me to file permits or investigate Visa options, I'll do
so. If they want me to consult for call centers, of course I
have some ability . Basically if someone wants to offer me a
legitimate odd job or whatever, I consider what they have to say.
In the end, any deal is closed by a legal and binding contract
that both of us would secure a copy. If I can't help, I'll
refer them to a friend or contact that knows more than me. I
live in Makati after all, and it's easy to be resourceful here.
To those doubting girls, I say this: "Isn't it obvious that with
thousands of weekly readers looking for un-biased information on
the Philippines, at least a few handfuls are going to want quality
assistance based on what they have learned from my character?"
I'm not some backwater province girl who works at the local fish
pond. I don't take well to the idea that I'm sitting in
Pagasinan province with a Western Union down the street that knows
me as a VIP.
So my lesson for the day to all
foreigners goes as follows: If you are talking to someone on
the internet that you don't know or don't know well, take your
time. Never send money unless you've met this person
first....especially all of you lonely hearts guys. Girls can
tell you any kind of story to make you feel sorry for them.
I can't tell you how many girls I've heard of who get all kinds of
free stuff from suckers online. This is a business for them,
and they scam dozens of guys. Furthermore, how do you know
that you are not talking to some guy who stole a picture of his
sister and posted it in an Asian or Russian chat room? If
you are doing business with a foreign company, try to do some form
of background check. This goes for people I've referred.
For all I know they are legitimate since they have offices in
Makati, but you NEVER KNOW what can be going on behind the scenes.
Even I'm not 100% sure of anyone. In the case of Country
Waffles here, the franchisors scammed the franchisees out of
millions and then fled to the States where it's nearly impossible
for the Philippines to extradite. If you hire someone
online, make sure that they send you a legal and binding contract.
Make sure that you don't pay them until they have completed the
task, and make sure that they can prove to you that they completed
your task before you pay. If you are buying a condo or land
here, make sure there isn't a land dispute or a lien on the
property. I could go on and on, but all I can say is BE
CAREFUL! I've killed two birds with one stone in this
writing, but I guess I should have said it long ago. Not
that it will stop the haters and otherwise stupid people who don't
bother to read and fire off an angry e-mail about the spelling of
my name or whatever else makes them wet.
April 3rd, 2005
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